Wear my scars like the rings on a pimp [8 Important life lessons]

I haven’t watched the new episode of the Walking Dead yet, so if I see any spoilers I will punch you in the face.
Welcome to another shitpost.
With 2017 coming to an end, I started thinking about shit that I’ve learnt, things that I want to keep on board throughout the next year. Things that I think everybody should follow. Everyone has shitty days, some more than others, and I wonder how I genuinely still feel kind of okay even during those times – how anybody does. Honestly, it’s probably because I know who I am and I know what I want. Whatever shitty times befall you, it’ll pass, even if it takes hours, days or months. It’ll always pass.  Every now and then you’ll find yourself in a tiny moment that makes you feel like everything has the potential to be great.
Anytime I feel like shit, I think ‘What would Dwight do?’ And then I stop feeling like shit. Dwight would not feel like shit. Dwight doesn’t wallow in self pity. Be Dwight, always.
Anyway, I’m gonna stop rambling and tell you the most important things I’ve learnt. This time I’ve even made it a little more attractive and coherent by bolding the headings; learn to be more considerate towards others, got it x
Let go
Stop with the ‘could have’s. Stop. Stop it. Let go of everything that you can’t change. You flunked that job interview, who gives a shit. There are more jobs, and that one wasn’t for you. Your book proposal was rejected, which means you gotta make it better. You were dumped. Good. Now you can be with someone who wants you for the rest of their life. Your friend turned out to be a snake. Better you found out now rather than later, right? There’s always a silver lining, you just have to find it. Also, you don’t have to stay friends with someone just because you’ve been friends since you were 5. If they’ve turned into a shitty person, don’t be afraid to say your goodbyes.
Give people a chance
We, as human beings, are generally kinda shit. We’ll hang on to shitty people, we’ll wait for people who aren’t bothered with us. We don’t give the nice guys a chance, we don’t give that weird horse-obsessed girl a chance. There were times I’d be blindly holding onto toxic people, accidentally cutting off better people. There are some things I still do that I’m about to change. I’d reject any guy that came my way just because I wanted to be alone. I’d drive new people away because I didn’t want any more friends. I’ve decided I’m going to try and maybe change that. Life is better and easier when you spend your time on people that want it.
Don’t play the waiting game
You know the one I’m talking about. The ‘she took an hour to text me, so I’m gonna take an hour and a half because I don’t wanna look too eager’. The ‘I’ll ignore him for a while and it’ll make him want me more’. Are you fucking 12 years old, we don’t do those things anymore. The ‘they’ll come back eventually’. They won’t. Time and tide wait for no man. Nobody, in this world, has the time for that shit. I dunno about you, but the whole ‘distance makes the heart grow fonder’ thing is a crock of shit. If you’re distant, I’ll get bored of you. If you wanna talk to someone, do it. If they think it’s too much, that’s on them. If I wanna talk to you, I’m gonna talk to you. If you can’t deal, that’s great, let me know so we can both stop wasting our time.
Blood isn’t thicker than water
Sometimes, you’ll have snakey relatives who will do everything in their power to fuck up your life because they’re bitter. You don’t choose your family; sometimes you even disown them. But you do choose your friends. You do (hopefully) choose your partner. Sometimes your friends will do more for you, and wish better for you than your own relatives ever will. Don’t have this weird ‘bloodline’ mentality. This is real life. If your family are doing something terrible, you should not support them. If your family hate your partner for no reason, choose your partner. As you go through life, you make connections that are stronger than any ties you were born into. Sometimes, you’ll have relatives that will have your back through everything. Other times, you won’t. Family isn’t always everything.
Always pursue something you really want
Even if you fail, at least you’ll know. Opportunities pass and time waits for nobody; stop feeling sorry for yourself. Even if you think you’re not good enough, shoot your shot. You either fail or you succeed, and if you don’t even try, you fail anyway. Might aswell have a go, right? The best thing I ever changed about myself was deciding to pursue anything that I really wanted; that’s the only way to avoid the agony of not knowing. I’d rather flop than have that lingering feeling. A quick white hot burst of pain > a dull pain that eats away at you. Fight for what you want and fight as hard as you can. Make sure you there is absolutely no fight left in you before you decide to give up.
Life isn’t all work and we’re all gonna die someday
Don’t be that person who puts work before everything else; you’re not nice to be around. It’s not good for you and it’s not good for the people around you. Put work aside for a sec and live your your life, work on your family/friendships/relationship. Do something you enjoy. Don’t take everything so seriously; but definitely take the right things seriously. The things and people you work and live for, they are your priority. Don’t wait for tomorrow because before you know it, tomorrow has come and gone and you were too busy working to notice it.
Never compromise, even in the face of armageddon
Okay, no. Compromise, but know your limits. If you compromise something about who you are in order to make another person happy/comfortable, that’s what love is about, isn’t it? But as soon as it starts making you miserable, you need to re-evaulate this decision.
Fucking communicate
Fucking. Communicate. Talk. Talk about everything with everyone. Talk to people. If something is bothering you, talk about it. Don’t be scared to push people away, don’t be scared that you’ll hurt the other person or ruin your relationship/friendship. If something is bothering you, it’ll only eat away at you forever and you’ll be miserable. Your friendships will be weak, your relationships will be built on shaky foundations. Ultimately, you will always lose. Unless you talk. It’s so easy to make your life easier, it’s easy to make your relationships stronger: COMMUNICATE. Please, for the love of God. Stop being worried that your bestie is too sensitive, stop being worried that he’s going to think you’re too clingy. Stop worrying. The worst thing that will happen is you’ll receive a response that will make you realise you don’t need that person in your life anyway.

Shit post over. Time: 10:36pm

It’s actually a pretty early one this time but I’ve been in bed for a while… ya girl got an early start tomorrow.

3 thoughts on “Wear my scars like the rings on a pimp [8 Important life lessons]

  1. I do this thing in comments where I quote my favorite line in the post but gosh there are so many, you’re making this incredibly hard and I love it! 😄
    I love how this is a motivational post (because I love those) and it feels like it’s a no-nonsense, no-holds-barred older sis that’s talking to me 😁
    I agree to so many of your life lessons but that bit about pursuing anything you wanted get a Hallelujah-Amen to me 👌

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